#MeToo: A Public Service Announcement
October 17, 2017 § Leave a comment
Since around Sunday afternoon, women have been posting on social media that they have been victims of sexual assault and/or sexual harassment. My Twitter and Facebook feeds are full of these brave posts, with the hashtag #MeToo. But, almost immediately, the backlash came. From men.
Yes, men are the victims of sexual assault, too. Around 10% of rape victims are male, and around 3% of men in the United States have been sexually assaulted. This is a very real problem. And the sexual assault of men does not get much coverage in our world. To be a male survivor of sexual assault is alienating and lonely. In fact, many of the same things women experience, men experience in the aftermath of being sexually assaulted.
But. This male backlash to #MeToo smacks of an attempt to deny women their experiences. It also smacks of ‘All Lives Matter.’
A couple of years ago, at the height of the Black Lives Matter movement, white conservatives began the counterpoint: All Lives Matter. Well, duh. Of course all lives matter. That was never open for debate. No one ever said that because Black Lives Matter, other lives don’t. But the simple fact was that the discussion was about black lives, which were much more likely to be terminated at the hands of the police than other types of lives.
In effect, saying ‘All Lives Matter’ was an attempt to equate the African American experience with the white American experience, and to say they were both equal. They’re not. This nation was founded upon exploiting the labour and bodies of African Americans, and even though slavery ended 152 years ago, the cost for black bodies has not ended. And even though the Civil Rights Era was half a century ago, the cost for black bodies has not ended. To suggest the white and black experience is the same is a false equivalence.
Not all men who are speaking out right now are attempting to deny women’s experiences. They are speaking out of of the same, or similar place. But, this is already being used to silence women. Some men are using these men’s experiences to claim an equivalence of the male and female experience. This is already being used to deny the experience of women. A few years ago, during another heightened consciousness over the experience of women, #YesAllWomen was a social media activist campaign. Because almost all women have experienced this. So, to claim that the male and female experience of sexual violence is the same is wrong. It is not. It is a false equivalence.
The Point of Privilege
September 1, 2016 § 2 Comments
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that San Francisco 49ers quarterback Colin Kaepernick refused to stand for the national anthem last weekend. Asked to explain himself, Kaepernick said:
I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color. To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder…This is not something that I am going to run by anybody. I am not looking for approval. I have to stand up for people that are oppressed. … If they take football away, my endorsements from me, I know that I stood up for what is right.
It is moments like this where I very much do feel like a stranger in a strange land in the United States. Where I come from, I have seen the ‘O Canada’ booed, cheered, ignored, and everything in between. We do tend to stand for our anthem, some of us sing it, some of us sing in both official languages. But not always. But here, in the US, everyone is expected to stand, hand over heart, and belt out ‘The Star Spangled Banner.’
Critics have been all over Kaepernick like Von Miller. They have said he’s grandstanding. That he’s trying to attract attention to his failing career. That he’s privileged. That he is disrespecting veterans. That his protest doesn’t count because he is biracial and was adopted by white people. And so on on and so on. Kaepernick is not the first black athlete to refuse to stand for the anthem. Jackie Robinson refused, for much the same reason. And, of course, so did Muhammad Ali. And Kaepernick is only the latest African American professional athlete to comment on the plight of black people in this country, following Dwyane Wade, Carmelo Anthony, and LeBron James. The most famous protest came from the WNBA, where a number of players, both black and white and including the entire Minnesota Lynx, wore Black Lives Matters t-shirts during warmups.
As for the criticism of Kaepernick, I can’t help but feel it rings hollow. The First Amendment guarantees us the right to freedom of expression. Critics say that Kaepernick lacks patriotism. But what’s the point of enforced patriotism? Doesn’t that just make it hollow and knee-jerk?
The fact that Kaepernick is biracial and was adopted by white parents when he was a small child has not been lost on critics. Former NFL safety and current NBC analyst Rodney Harrison claimed Kaepernick isn’t black. I’ve seen worse on Twitter. The argument here is that because of his upbringing, Kaepernick has no idea what it’s like to be black. This is specious logic. Of course he knows what it’s like to be black. He’s long since figured out that due to his skin colour, he can never be white. He has had police pull guns on him and a friend in college when moving out of an apartment. He has seen inequality in the world around him.
As for his declining career and the argument he is not Robinson or Ali. Sure, no one is Robinson or Ali. But Kaepernick is still a former Pro Bowl QB, who carried his team to the Super Bowl. Some argue that this makes it harder for the 49ers to cut him. I doubt it. The NFL is a business and its mercenary. The New York Giants’ kicker Josh Brown has acknowledged he beat his ex-wife, to the point where she called the police over 20 times for over 20 separate instances. Think the Giants care? Of course not. Teams have also cut players for supporting marriage equality and medicinal marijuana. And even if the 49ers cut him, maybe they’ll get a bit of flack, but life will go on. Levi Stadium is still sold out. Fans will still buy 9ers gear.
As for his privilege: Of course he’s privileged. That’s the whole point. Kaepernick has made something like $20 million in the NFL. He’s a very recognisable player. So he has a platform upon which to make a statement. Privilege works in many different ways. And the only way the world gets better is if those with privilege use it for good. And Kaepernick is using his to point out American hypocrisy regarding African Americans. Kaepernick refusing to stand for the anthem and then explaining his motivations clearly and patiently is a much bigger deal than the average punter refusing. Kaepernick’s privilege here is what allows the statement.
And that, gentle reader, is how privilege should be used.
Matthew Barlow 